Pleasure Tip: Take Yourself Out On A Solo Date

This Pleasure Tip is a somatic pleasure guide to planning your solo date that actually turns you on, from pleasure menu to presence and letting your body guide you.

Take yourself out on a solo date, and I mean the whole thing. In this Pleasure Tip, I walk you through how to plan a solo date that actually turns you on: building it from your pleasure menu, writing yourself an invitation, prepping everything ahead of time so you can be fully present, and letting your body and five senses guide you. You don't need to wait for someone else to romance you. Date yourself and give yourself the love in the way you love to receive it.

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I’m Pleasurelit Patricia

I believe the more we expand our capacity for pleasure, the more alive we feel.

Curious and open minded by nature, I have always been a pleasure explorer. Things changed when I adapted to be the "good girl", achieving, and performing. After surviving a DV marriage I moved from people pleasing to pleasure leading. I explored over 400 pleasure tools, countless somatic pleasure practices, and completed more than 20 certifications, including trauma-informed somatics, sex, fitness, health, nutrition, tantra, yoga and breathwork. And now I'm bringing pleasure into perimenopause.

I am an award-winning Somatic Pleasure Educator & Coach. My work guides you to awaken, deepen and widen your capacity for pleasure, so you can feel deliciously turned on by yourself and life itself.

I am the founder of Pleasurelit®, bestselling author of The Pleasurelit Way, and host of the top 5% podcast Pleasurelit with Patricia. Pleasurelit is your pleasure lit from within.

I claim my pleasure

Start with your pleasure menu

If you have got a pleasure menu already, a personal list of what genuinely lights you up, this is where you pull from it. If you don’t, check out my episode on “Create a Pleasure Menu” to get started. Think across categories: food that tastes delicious, music that moves your body, textures you love on your skin, a scent that changes your mood the second you smell it. Create your solo date from your pleasure menu.

Your Invitation

Write yourself an actual invitation. A note on paper, a message to your own phone, an actual invitation in an envelope in your mailbox or a line in your calendar that says something like “I’ll see you tonight, babe.” Flirt with yourself.

Prepare

Do the preparation ahead of time so the date itself is free of logistics. If a meal is part of it, prep the food so all that is left is cooking and eating, which you can do the pleasurelit way. Set out the candle, the flowers, the outfit. Dress up for yourself.

The Anticipation

There is pleasure in waiting. As an energetic woman, the anticipation rises my pleasure. Knowing your date is tomorrow, knowing what you are going to wear, what you are going to eat, gives your body something to turn on to before the date even happens. Let yourself get excited about it the way you would for someone you are falling for.

Be Fully Present

At your date, slow it down. Use your five senses. Be intentional. Notice what tastes delicious and voice it out loud. Moan, move, touch.. play. Let your body guide you. One portal to pleasure will open another one. Lean into what feel good for you in the very moment.

Date Yourself

Stop waiting for someone else to plan the romance you seek and start giving yourself the version of love you actually want to receive. Occasional, weekly, monthly, date yourself how often you desire. You will find more pleasure practices and guides within The Pleasurelit Woman Program.

With love & pleasure,
Patricia

Award Winning Somatic Pleasure Educator & Coach

*Disclaimer: Please listen to your body and honour your own needs while engaging with these practices and conversations. Not every practice is suitable for every person, every body or every season of life. This content is shared for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

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