About Patricia Peters

Hi, I’m Patricia Peters (also known as Trisha or the Pleasure & Toy Queen), she/her, in her mid 30s, divorced, mother of 2 kids, currently single, originally from Germany and now living in Australia permanently… on this page you can read more about me and my story..

I have always had a deep interest in kink, finding joy in exploring, experimenting, and embracing variety. Over the years, I have immersed myself in both kink and swinger communities, both with partners and solo. I identify on the spectrum of demisexual, as I often require an emotional connection before feeling sexual attraction. For me, pleasure, sex, play, and kink are far more fulfilling when there’s a deep bond of trust and connection. Being able to fully let go requires vulnerability and honest, meaningful conversations. I am drawn to individuals who exhibit emotional intelligence, live a healthy, active lifestyle, exude positive energy, and who honour the Divine Feminine. I would also add Autosexuality and Sapiosexuality into this spectrum. I truely believe "spectrum" is the right word to this as it's not one "box". I love learning new skills and find it very attractive when someone is teaching me something new, can hold deep and meaningful conversations, is passionate and inspires and empower others. And well, autosexual - I am deeply in love with myself & turn myself on!

My journey into sexuality began early on. My first kiss was with a girl, and I thoroughly enjoyed the experience. Initially identifying as bisexual, I now embrace myself in the spectrum of pansexual, as I am attracted to people regardless of their sex or gender identity. It’s their energy and the connection we share that matters most to me. Interestingly, after my first kiss with a girl, I soon found myself in a group kiss with two boys, which sparked my curiosity in swinging. This later expanded into an exploration of polyamory and non-monogamous relationships and I remain open to wherever this journey takes me.

At this stage of my life, l identify as both a Switch and Alpha Female. Different situations and people bring out varied energy dynamics in me, and I find joy in exploring both roles when the right moment presents itself.

Submissive: I embrace my submissive side when I feel safe enough to relinquish control. This dynamic brings balance to my life, offering a welcome counterpoint to my naturally independent and organised personality. Letting go of control is both challenging and deeply satisfying. Within my submissive role, I enjoy embodying the "princess," "good girl," or "bottom/bedroom sub" archetypes, and I expect to be treated with respect in these dynamics. I am especially drawn to healthy masculinity Alpha men to embody my submissive side. Some of the kinks I enjoy as a submissive include sensation play, sensory deprivation, squirting, vulva fisting, public play, tantric & somatic practices, light impact, bare hand spanking, restraints/bodage, role play, edging, praise, anal, electro stimulation, primal play, ropes/Shibari, and toys, among others.

Dominant: I love being worshipped and treated with the utmost respect, holding myself and those around me to high standards. I take pride in training my submissives to become loyal and valuable servants, not only to me as their Queen but to all women. I embody various archetypes, including the Seductress, Goddess, Hedonist, Mentor, Nurturer, and Warrior. I love being called Queen, Goddess, Lady or Ma'am. Some of my kinks and fetishes within my Female Dominant role include Goddess Worship, Body Worship (such as feet, muscles, booty, and hair), receiving massages, service subs completing acts of services to make my life easier, financial offerings, pleasure toy & kinky tool play, sensation play, sensory deprivation & overload, CFNM, light impact, restraints, edging, tease and denial, JOI, role plays, primal play (incl. scratching and biting), Alpha men submitting to Me, pleasure servant training, somatic and tantric practices, devotional rituals.

I have a deep love for Tantra and the power of harnessing sexual energy. As a Goddess and Sacred Alpha Feminine, I thrive in connecting and playing with a conscious, healthy masculine or feminine energy, building up sexual energy for full-body orgasmic bliss. Through deep breathing, meditation, sensual massages, and other tantric practices, channeling this energy – whether solo or partnered – feels truly divine and delicious. Pleasure Magic is also a favourite of mine.

As a Sensualist, I am passionate about all things related to sensuality, whether engaging all of my senses or limiting some to heighten others. Sensation play, combined with a touch of kink, brings me immense pleasure – such as using restraints, blindfolds, pinwheels, feathers, temperature play, electro play, or having my hair played with, and receiving massages on my feet, head, and body. I particularly enjoy impact play when it’s intertwined with sexual and sensual experiences, and only with individuals with whom I share a deep connection..

As an Experimentalist, I embrace variety and the thrill of trying new things in a safe and consensual way. This openness has led me to explore and enjoy anal play, fisting, edging, various pleasure toys and tools, squirting, role plays, teasing, and building anticipation. Through these explorations, l’ve also established a hard-limit list and always communicate my boundaries clearly.

As an Exhibitionist, I take great pleasure in showcasing my body, my pleasures, and my vibrant being for others to admire. I find joy in inspiring others, reducing shame, and promoting self-love and pleasure. l’ve enjoyed experiences such as being tied to a St. Andrew’s Cross for an impact session at a swingers’ party, tied to a pole for an electro session at a kink event, and even fisted in front of an audience, who applauded afterward and approached me with questions. I love recording myself, sharing my Female self-pleasure and toy experiences with the world through my adult fan pages (like OnlyFans and Fansly), and being worshipped through the photos & videos I post. Knowing that these moments inspire and turn others on, helping them find more pleasure in their own lives, is a huge turn-on for me.

I have a deep passion for a wide variety of pleasure tools, including 100% borosilicate glass wands for solo play, uniquely shaped and textured premium silicone dildos with suction cups, clitoral stimulation toys with air pulse technology – preferable with an oval opening, and silicone tongue toys with pump feature. I also enjoy kinky & BDSM tools, Pleasure Furniture, vibrating and rotating butt plugs, app-controlled kegel ball vibrators, electro stimulation devices, and other sensation-based tools.

When I’m truly turned on, my Primal energy takes over, and I love to indulge in the raw intensity of the moment. Whether it’s using my fingers to scratch or bite, or embracing my partner’s passion, I find this connection incredibly arousing and intimate. I crave that deep, instinctual connection that brings out the best in both of us.

Being a Libra with a Venus in Scorpio, I’m driven by a desire for balance, variety, and intensely passionate experiences. I believe in giving as much as I receive, and when I set my mind to something, I go all in with determination and purpose.

My erotic blueprint leans toward energetic play, closely followed by a love for both kinky and sensual experiences. I find energy work intertwined with sensual and kinky practices to be an incredibly fulfilling combination.

In Human Design, I’m a Generator with a 6/3 profile, which means I thrive on adventure while staying true to my values. Listening to my gut instincts brings me joy and helps me share that positive energy with others. My dominant gift is 32 – a nose for success.

My dominant love language is Acts of Service – nothing warms my heart more than someone making my life a little easier in thoughtful ways.

Some of my other passions include lifting weights, practicing yoga, reading, walking, enjoying sunrises, listening to podcasts, and savouring healthy, delicious food – all the self-care rituals that make me feel good and turn me on. I’ve truly fallen in love with myself and life. I’m committed to embracing a fully conscious and present life.

As a Hedonist and Pleasure Slut, I prioritise pleasure in every aspect of my life. It’s been a challenging journey, but one that’s led me to become the best version of myself, mentally, emotionally, and physically – constantly evolving into the woman I aspire to be. This also led me to say no to alcohol, living a sober life. My pleasure experience and overall wellbeing is at peak when I live a healthy and active lifestyle.

I’m also a survivor of anorexia, abuse, and domestic violence. Growing up, I experienced various forms of abuse, which led to an eating disorder at 17. My life took a pivotal turn in 2017 when I put an end to domestic violence and broke free from the cycle. That’s when my healing journey began. I’m now open about my sexuality, sensuality, and relationships, but that wasn’t always the case. After enduring abuse, I dimmed my light, shut down my pleasure, and struggled to love myself. My self-esteem was low, and I sought validation and love from others, giving up everything to please them in the hope they’d love me in return. I didn’t prioritise myself at all. Everything changed when I took responsibility for my life and choices. One brave decision led to another, and slowly, I healed, improved my self-love, and unlocked my potential for pleasure. When I separated from my kids’ father, I set health and fitness goals. I wanted to be healthier and fitter - not just for myself but for my children. My biggest goal was to become stronger, in case I ever needed to defend myself. I’d never stuck to a fitness routine before, but this time was different. I had a powerful reason why, and I kept reminding myself of it. Eventually, home workouts became part of my daily self-care routine. The benefits of healthier eating and regular exercise were undeniable - my mood lifted, I felt more energised, stronger both physically and mentally, and my confidence and self-esteem grew. I lost a little bit of weight, built muscle, and transformed my body. My libido increased, and my mindset became stronger. I knew I wanted more, so I invested in myself, studying fitness and nutrition while balancing my career in aged care management and caring for my young kids.

In 2019, I founded my business, “Healthy with Trisha,” as a Personal Trainer and Nutrition Coach, with a mission to help women transform their lives by embracing a healthier lifestyle. My primary focus was to empower women, particularly those overcoming the trauma of abuse and domestic violence, to reclaim their strength and confidence. Over the years, I’ve guided many women to achieve long-term success, from weight loss to building physical and emotional resilience. The most rewarding feedback I consistently received was, “I feel more confident in my own skin, and my self-love has grown immensely.” This realisation highlighted for me the essential role self-love plays in creating a fulfilling life, enhancing not just physical well-being but also pleasure, success and overall happiness. It was this understanding that deepened my passion for promoting self-love and pleasure.

I take great joy in inspiring others to explore themselves, embrace their desires, and step into their authentic truth. Helping others unlock their potential for self-love and pleasure has become my life’s work. In 2021, I took a bold leap by leaving my career in aged care management and nursing, moving from South Australia to Queensland, and fully committing to working for myself. I ventured into the adult industry as a content creator in Jan 2022, and shortly thereafter, began my journey as a Pleasure Toy Reviewer and Blogger. This work has allowed me to foster a deeper connection with my own body, cultivating self-acceptance and love for parts of myself that I once struggled to embrace, such as my post pregnancy body.

Recognising the need for balance and presence in my life, I turned to Yoga, which became a transformative practice for grounding me and reconnecting with my feminine energy. As a certified Yoga Trainer (350 hours), I have learned the significance of asanas, energy work, meditation, breathwork, and journaling – practices that have enriched every aspect of my life. In particular, breath and meditation have been powerful tools for deepening pleasure and even enhancing orgasmic experiences by cultivating body awareness. This inspired me to become a certified Breath and Meditation Teacher.

As I continued my professional growth, I became a certified Somatic Sex Coach and Tantra Practitioner. In combining these skills with my expertise in fitness, yoga, and pleasure education, I rebranded my business to “SelflovePleasure.” Today, I offer a holistic approach to self-love and pleasure, working with the body, mind, and spirit. My professional roles now include Pleasure, Self-Love & Conscious Kink Educator, Tantra Practitioner, Pleasure Product Reviewer, Yoga and Fitness Teacher, and Trauma-Informed Coach. Additionally, I am an Adult Pleasure Content Creator under the name “PleasureToyQueen,” where I explore solo content with pleasure toys as part of my personal journey toward deeper self-love and pleasure. As an autosexual, I find joy in exploring and seducing my own body – experiencing pleasure through all my senses in a way that connects me more intimately with myself.

In 2024, I was honoured to receive Multiple Awards for my work as the Pleasure & Toy Queen – as an Educator, Reviewer and Creator, a milestone that reinforces my mission to inspire and empower pleasure, self-pleasure, conscious kink, tantra and the use of body-safe pleasure toys & kinky tools. That year I also completed my Professional Dominatrix training at the Dominatrix Academy. Exploring my darker Feminine has been another huge step towards stepping into my true power and most authentic self. The training helped me to embrace my role as a Queen and Leader.

Now it is 2025 and after a very deep and long reflection of what is going to come next, I discovered my bigger purpose and true calling: PLEASURELIT

Deep dpwn within me I desire a pleasurelit life and a calling to inspire and empower others to live a pleasurelit life as well. I have made the transformation from the girl that didnt live herself to become pleasure embodied and empowered. Pleasurelit is a word I created, a lifestyle approach I discovered, my business and my deepest desire for myself and others.

Ready to be and live pleasurelit? Join me now

With love & pleasure,

Queen Patricia

• 2009 Bank assistance manager – Sparkasse Goettingen, Germany

• 2012 Enrolled Nurse (AUS) – TAFE Brisbane, Australia

• 2015 Registered Nurse (Germany) – Klinikum Hannover, Germany

• 2016 Business Management – Salford College, Australia

• 2017 Quality Management Aged Care

• 2018 Certificate 4 in WHS – TAFE SA, Australia

• 2019 RTW Certificate – Australia

• 2020 Infection prevention & control Lead Certificate – Australasian College for Infection Prevention and Control

• 2020 Certificate 4 in Fitness (PT) & Master Trainer – Australian Institute of Fitness

• 2020 Nutrition Coach Certificates – Clean Health Fitness Institute & Optimum Nutrition

• 2021 Certificate 4 in Trainer & Assessor – Connect Training & Education, Australia

• 2021 Recognise & respond appropriately to DV Certificate

• Reiki Master – Natural Healer, Australia

• Sensual Dance Teacher, Sexify, US

• 2022 Certified Yoga Teacher (350hr) – MyYoga Time, Australia

• 2022 Certified Meditation Teacher – Loka Yoga School, Bali

• 2022 Certified Breath work trainer – Loka Yoga School, Bali

• 2023 Certified Trauma informed Coach – The Centre for Healing, Australia

• 2023 Certified Tantra Practitioner/Coach – The Sanctuary of Ananda, Australia

• 2023 Certified Somatic Sex Coach – Yonilicious, Australia

• 2024 Professional Dominatrix – Mistress Mindset Academy, Spain

My Qualifications

My Mission

Empowering you to embrace your most authentic pleasure self through open conversations and shame free guidance. I educate and inspire the exploration of conscious holistic pleasure, tantra, embodied self-care, kink and body-safer pleasure toys & kinky tools – with the core of self-love, & deeper connections for unapologetic pleasure & play.

As a white, cisgender, able bodied, neurotypical & femme-presenting woman I acknowledge my privilege. I am committed to creating accessible & inclusive spaces that welcome people of all genders, sexualities, abilities, cultures, backgrounds & income levels as well as cultivating spaces for black, indigenous & people of colour along with the LGBTQIA+ folks.

I have a good network within the industry & can refer to others who are specialised in the areas that I cannot provide support with. I am constantly learning & growing. If you experience financial hardship or have other struggles holding you back from working with me, please feel free to reach out to me directly to discuss.

My core Values

• Body Autonomy: Every individual has the right to explore and understand their own body, free from judgment and shame.

• Pleasure Right & Positivity: Self-pleasure and sexual exploration are essential to a healthy, happy life and should be celebrated, not stigmatized. Everyone has the right to pleasure oneself.

• Inclusivity: All genders, orientations and identities deserve access to education, resources and support for their unique pleasure journeys.

• Shame-Free Exploration: Kink, BDSM and other sexual practices should be approached with curiosity, respect and a commitment to safety and consent.

• Self-Love & Empowerment: Cultivating a deep connection with one's body and desires is key to unlocking true pleasure, confidence and empowerment.

• Education and Awareness: Providing accurate, comprehensive information and resources to help individuals make informed choices about their sexual health and wellbeing.

• Community Building: Fostering a supportive, non-judgmental environment where individuals can share, learn and grow together, free from fear of rejection.

Acknowledgement of Country: I would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land on which we teach and learn upon, and I pay my respects to their elders, past, present & emerging.