How women can use pleasure to sleep better

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There was a period in my life where I had completely abandoned my sleep.

Not intentionally. I did not decide one day to stop taking care of myself at night. It happened the way it always does for high-functioning women. Slowly, one small compromise at a time, until I was lying down exhausted every night and my mind was already running the next day.

Should have done this. Could have done that better. Just quickly write that down.

Sometimes I got back up. Sometimes I just lay there cycling through it all until I collapsed into something that was more shutdown than rest. And then I would wake at 2am still thinking. And by morning I was straight into doing before I had taken a single moment for myself.

I thought I was managing. I thought if I just stayed on top of everything it would eventually feel like enough.

It never did.

This is one of those episodes I recorded feeling genuinely content and grounded, and I think you will feel that. Pour yourself something warm, find somewhere comfortable, and come listen.

Podcast Episode

I’m Patricia.

I grew up as the “good girl”, achieving, performing and unable to receive. After surviving a DV marriage, I spent years reconnecting with my body, exploring over 400 pleasure tools, countless embodied practices, and completing more than 20 certifications.

I am an award-winning somatic pleasure educator and explorer. I guide you to awaken, deepen and widen your capacity for pleasure, so you can feel radiant, regulated and deliciously turned on by yourself and life itself.

I am the founder of Pleasurelit®, bestselling author of The Pleasurelit Way, and host of the top 5% podcast Pleasurelit with Patricia. Pleasurelit is built on my trauma-informed Somatic Pleasure approach, drawing on tantra, breathwork, yoga and kink. It is pleasure lit from within, felt deeply in the body and lived as a way of being.

I believe the more we expand our capacity for pleasure, the more alive we feel.

What I did not understand then was that my sleep was not a productivity problem. It was my nervous system telling me exactly what it was running on. And for a high-functioning woman, that is almost always survival.

The perfectionist. The good girl. The strong one. The one who learnt early that doing and pushing and being useful was how you stayed safe. That pattern does not clock off at bedtime. Your nervous system does not know it is allowed to rest. So you lie there wired and exhausted at the same time, wondering what is wrong with you.

Nothing is wrong with you. You just have not been taught to make sleep pleasurable. There is a difference between sleeping and sleeping as a Pleasurelit Woman. A significant one.

In this episode I share what that period really cost me, how I found my way back, and what my sleep actually looks like now. The tools, the rituals, the bedroom setup, and the part that might surprise you about what becomes possible when you arrive at sleep already in your body… pleasure in your sleep…

Including something I talk about openly because it is real and it is worth knowing.

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Thank you. With love & pleasure, Patricia

For educational and informative purposes only

We would love to hear from you:

• What resonated with your from this conversation?

• What has been your experience with bad sleep vs good quality sleep?

• What are your tips for a pleasurable sleep?

• What do you feel called to share?

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