Pleasure Tip: Explore Your Own Body

Explore your own body is a practice that comes before anyone else's touch. Learn how to start even if you have never really looked at yourself or your body.

Welcome back to my Pleasure Tips Series. Today’s tip is one I cannot say loud enough: explore your own body.

Over the years, I have worked with so many women, and men too, who have never explored their own body. They have never really looked at it. Never taken note of their own sensations. Couldn’t tell what they liked or disliked.

Here is the thing. When you don’t know your own body, when you don’t know what actually brings you pleasure, you cannot expect someone else to know either. Your partner is not a mind reader. They are an assistant to your pleasure, not the source of it. You are the one who guides them. You are the one who lets them know what lands and what doesn’t. And that starts with you, alone, taking the time to look at your own body, to gaze at it, to fall in love with it.

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"I believe the more we expand our capacity for pleasure, and the more we care for our body, the more deeply in love with ourselves and life we can feel."

I’m Pleasurelit Patricia, award winning Somatic Pleasure Educator & Perimenopause Coach

After growing up as the good girl, becoming a high achiever and later leaving a DV marriage, I became fascinated by what helps us fall in love with ourselves and life. I have explored hundreds of somatic practices and pleasure tools, alongside more than 20 certifications and years of study across health, nutrition, fitness, somatics, yoga, breathwork, tantra and sexuality.

Through my programs, courses, coaching, and community, I help you build a pleasurable and healthy relationship with your body, so you can feel deliciously in love with yourself and life itself, especially during perimenopause and at times of disconnection.

I’m the founder of Pleasurelit®, bestselling author of The Pleasurelit Way, and host of Pleasurelit with Patricia, a top 5% globally ranked podcast.

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How to explore your own body

Depending on where you are at, you can start really slow.

Maybe that looks like getting more comfortable being naked in your own space, no mirror, just you. Maybe it looks like actually looking at your body in the mirror without flinching away. From there you can move into gazing. Then into flirting with yourself. Then into fuller exploration, head to toe.

I have a full practice built around this, one I walk through in detail in another episode “Body Pleasure Mapping”.

If you are just getting started, don’t try to take in your whole body at once. Lean into whatever makes you curious first. That might be your hands, your neck, the backs of your knees, wherever you find yourself curious rather than uncomfortable.

Build up slowly, through gazing, touch, and even tools if that feels right for you. Take note of what feels good and lean into that. Just as importantly, take note of what doesn’t.

Over time, you start to actually get to know yourself. You start falling in love with your own body. And through that, more portals to your pleasure open up, so you can feel your pleasure lit from within.

With love & pleasure,
Patricia

Award Winning Somatic Pleasure Educator & Perimenopause Coach

*Disclaimer: Please listen to your body and honour your own needs while engaging with these practices and conversations. Not every practice is suitable for every person, every body or every season of life. This content is shared for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

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Award Winning Somatic Pleasure Educator and Perimenopause Coach

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